3 Ways To Make Your Guy Feel Like Superman

Before we go any further, I should add “without acting like a bimbo” to that idea of making your guy feel like Superman.

3 Ways To Make Your Guy Feel Like SupermanIn the past, that’s the way women used to be taught how to make their guys feel good (and the way some women still do it) – silly stuff, like letting him think he’s cleverer than you, taking a menial job so he earns more than you, acting helpless when it comes to doing anything in the least bit practical etc.

Thank goodness we’ve got over all that, having fought long and hard to be seen as equals.

On the other hand, there’s still some merit in making your guy feel good, not superior to you, just good.

A guy who is feeling like Superman, is a lot more confident in himself, happier and more fun to be with than a guy who is constantly giving himself a hard time over being a loser.

Being swamped by images of what it is to be a man (action hero, go-getting millionaire), is the equivalent of women being shown endless airbrushed images of women with flawless skin and perfect thighs and breasts. In both cases it can lead to insecurity and loss of confidence.

So you may as well make him feel great – it costs nothing – and as I say, you stand to gain a lot – not least in the bedroom, where confidence and feeling good count for a lot.

All you have to do is feed his ego in three important areas, (where, by the way, you stand to benefit too) and he’ll feel like he can save the world!


Keep Your Sex Life Buzzing

There’s nothing that makes a man feel better than knowing he is keeping his woman happy in bed. But the secret is not to leave the whole responsibility for your satisfaction up to him. Act like you can’t keep your hands off him (hopefully you can’t!) Tell him what you’d love him to do to you (without a hint of dissatisfaction at what he’s done so far). Suggest a few things that you “can’t wait” to do to him. Or a few new places or positions to try. The more fun you have between the sheets the better you’ll both feel, and he’s sure to be walking 7 feet tall with a woman like you at his side.


Ask For Help

No matter how equal the sexes, guys generally have stronger muscles and some skills that you don’t have. Your skills are of equal value, just different. Asking for help where you need it, can help your guy feel strong and manly, so don’t struggle on with a task you know he can do better – let him show off his strength and skills a bit. You will both benefit for doing the tasks that best suit your abilities.


Share The Power

It’s important for guys to feel a sense of control, to be going places and to feel they have the power to change things. Women are often so in control of their own lives these days that they tend to try and take over his too, deciding what or where you will eat, where you will go on vacation, even what he will wear when you go out. This can have an emasculating effect, especially if he is all for having a quiet life, and you are more verbal about the choices that affect both of you. So (this one can be hard for some of us) why not relinquish control now and again and ask him to surprise you with plans for the weekend, the next date or dinner? You might be pleasantly surprised when you see how competent he is at organizing something when he gets the chance!

OVER TO YOU: Do you have a tip to share about propping up your guy’s ego? Do you think guys are as insecure as women these days? PLEASE SHARE YOUR THOUGHTS BELOW

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  1. Kay says:

    Love your blog, and your advice is totally true! My fiance loves it when I ask him to help me with stuff, especially when his muscles are involved.. haha

    • Ana says:

      Hi Kay, thanks! Win-win – it keeps him happy and the furniture (or whatever) gets moved easier than you could move it yourself ๐Ÿ™‚

  2. Michelle says:

    Hmmm…I never thought about it this way. I’ll let him carry up the groceries next time! All kidding aside, these are good points! Definitely something that I can do better with!
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  3. Bren says:

    I LOVE that #2 and boy do I use it. I was single and self-sufficient for so long and it was hard to let my hubs do something for me BUT I didn’t want him to feel non-needed. As for your other 2 tips, very good ones. To me, I keep him laughing by being my normal silly self and it makes him feel good that I am comfortable enough with him to act like a total idiot. ๐Ÿ™‚
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    • Ana says:

      Yeah, it’s so easy to get into the mindset of “I CAN do everything for myself, and therefore I SHOULD” especially since we’ve had equality drummed into us, but relationships are about sharing and being vulnerable. Sounds like you have a great relationship, Bren ๐Ÿ™‚

  4. I LOVE this post for so many reasons! One of which is so many women feel like making your main feel like Superman makes you weak. For so many, they don’t see how that can actually make you strong (as you’ve so wonderfully pointed it). We can be strong women (I certainly am) while loving, respecting and adoring our husbands. More power to you! <3
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  5. I meant “man” – I really can spell :).
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