Sometimes when you’re with a guy (whether you just met him or you’ve been together for some time), you wonder if you should stay with him or you should get out of there and try to meet someone else.
Sometimes we are too inclined to hope for the best or to give him the benefit of the doubt.
If romance is in the air, and especially if there’s chemistry, women are excellent at ignoring all kinds of red flags that our rational selves and our best friends warn us about.
But who listens to their rational brain or their best friend when love is in the air
But you really should.
In the video below by Digital Romance Inc Joe Amoia explains how to work out if a guy is the right guy for you or not. He reckons if you experience any of the following feelings, he is NOT the right guy for you. If you detect feelings of
- frustration
- upset
- anger
- sadness
- depression
on a regular basis when you think about your relationship, you can be pretty confident that you are better to give this guy his marching orders. He just isn’t doing what he needs to do for you. He isn’t adding to your life. He is subtracting from it.
Anytime you experience negative emotions like that, it means your basic needs are not being met. And you definitely don’t want to go through life in that way.
No matter how many excuses you come up with for him, he can’t change and become someone who he is not. You’re asking too much of him if you expect that. You are who you are and he is who he is. You have to accept that.
Look at your previous relationships that didn’t work out. Did you experience these emotions regularly? Chances are that you did. Don’t fall into the same trap again.
Here’s the video, if you want to watch it for yourself.
Over to you: Does the message in this video ring true with you? Do you agree with the signs that he’s the wrong guy? Please share your experience in the comments below.
Gosh, you makes some really good points here. I hope that I’ll be able to tell…. plenty of people I know have dated ‘frogs’ 😛
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It’s funny how our friends can see the “frogs” much more easily than we can, but if you’re looking out for the signs of slimy greenness you should be able to tell. Thanks for your comment Sophie.
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Awesome information! Thank goodness my husband was not one of the categories.
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Thanks for your comment Imelda. I was pleased too not to find any of those signs in my marriage though not surprised after so many years together 🙂
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you guys are awesome.
I’ve experience those signs… so it means he is not the right guy for me and he will never be… that hurts. do i have to back off for a while. if he is not the right guy what is the best thing to do?
should I cut all the communication to him?
Thanks Rose. The only thing to do if you’re dating someone and he’s not the right guy for you is to break things off and move on, otherwise situations like this where you feel upset a lot of the time can go on like this for years. Unless you are free, there’s little chance to find a new love. When you decide to break up with someone, it’s better not to see them at all and to cut all communication. Otherwise you’re just applying salt to your wounds every time you see him or hear from him. With no communication you give yourself a chance to heal faster.
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