Why Does It Feel Like All The Good Men Are Taken?

After a few bad dates in a row, or a few weeks with no one on the horizon at all, you might start to feel that eligible single guys just don’t exist. You know plenty of great men, but they’re all married to or in a relationship with your friends. You decide that all the good men are taken and there’s none left for you. You might as well resign yourself to a life alone or going from one jerk to the next.

All Why Does It Seem Like All The Good Men Are Taken?But there’s no need to head out to the pet store for cats just yet. While you might be feeling discouraged at the moment, you can rest assured that not all the good men are taken, you just haven’t met your man yet.

The key word there is yet.

One major reason why women feel the good men are all gone is because they put themselves under pressure to find that perfect man, and find him now! Take a deep breath. let go a bit and look at the big picture. Sure, there are a lot of men that aren’t right for you, but that doesn’t mean there isn’t at least one that is just who you need. Remember, you have to find that one man in a huge crowd of men, so don’t expect that you’ll be drawn to each other like magnets. Give yourself time and stop stressing about it.

High Standards

If you’re under the impression that all the good men are unavailable, it could also be because you’ve set some pretty high standards. Could it be that in looking for a good man, you’ve started to look for Mr. Perfect? While keeping your standards high enough that you don’t settle for anyone, don’t set the bar so high that no one can meet your expectations. After all, you’re not perfect either. The key is finding those with flaws you can live with, not finding a guy without flaws.

How He Looks

Remember, looks aren’t everything. If you don’t give a guy a chance because he doesn’t have a movie-star face and body, you could be missing out on the love of your life. Take time to get to know a man before you write him off. Sure, you don’t want to hang out with a man who’s obviously not taking care of himself, or who you find a complete turn-off, but at the same time, it’s amazing how a guy can grow on you once you give a great personality a chance to shine. Sometimes a change in perspective can work wonders in finding a great man. He was there all along, you just didn’t see it.

Are You A Great Catch?

Take a good, hard look at yourself. Are you the kind of person you’re looking for? Are you kind, considerate, and fun to be with? Do you do everything you need to stay fit and healthy? It’s kind of hard to expect that good men will come knocking on your door if you tend to be negative, unkind, miserable, or bitchy. Try to become the person you’re looking for and you’re more likely to attract someone who’s a great match. Be Irresistible!

New Places

Maybe you’re also looking in all the wrong places. Could it be that you go to the same old places to meet guys? If you tried other options you could attract a different type of man. Going to bars or pubs looking for men might not be your best option. They’re often just looking for something short term, like one-night! Think about where your ideal man might hang out and then broaden your horizons, and get out there to find him.

Need some inspiration for places and activities where you will meet the best guys? Take a look at my book on Amazon 182 Best Places To Meet Men. Get The Guy You Want. Remember, the more eligible single guys you meet, the quicker you’ll come across the one, so make sure you get out there. He’ll not be calling round any time soon unless you have a hankering for the pizza delivery guy.

Over to you? Does it seem to you like the good guys are thin on the ground? Are there any other reasons for this than those here? Please share your thoughts in the comments below.

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12 Responses to “Why Does It Feel Like All The Good Men Are Taken?”

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  1. Cathy Dean says:

    Speaking as someone who is lucky enough to be married to one of the Good Guys, in my experience the harder you look the more elusive Mr Right becomes. Settle into becoming comfortable in your own skin and you’ll find that Mr Right will suddenly appear, sometimes from the place you least expected! It happened for me and it’s happened for a number of my lovely clients.
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  2. Sedruola says:

    I was thinking about this topic yesterday!! I’m lucky to have married an amazing guy, but before I met and actually gave him a chance I was stuck in “must haves” hell. I clearly remember thinking, then saying out loud, “I’m done waiting, I’m moving on with my life, when he comes, he’ll have to catch up.” I also decided to remove one thing from my list: He had to be black. When I did that I opened myself up to ALL possibilities and the love of my life, whom I’d already been friends with for a year, was able to walk in. I agree with you that you have to love yourself and be comfortable with you first. I also agree that changing, not necessarily lowering our standards helps tremendously! ๐Ÿ™‚
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    • Ana says:

      Thank you for sharing your experience Sedruola. It’s a pity that it’s much easier to see these things from the position of having found a great guy than it is when you’re still looking otherwise there might be fewer single people in the world ๐Ÿ™‚
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      • Sedruola says:

        For sure! I have friends that I try to give some tips too, but they just see me as married to a great guy and not understanding where they are. . . I understand. I was 34 when I got married. . . 32 when I changed my mind. It’s not easy. But you did great with this article! ๐Ÿ™‚
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  3. Amy Bovaird says:

    Great post! Ana, I think sometimes we can get hung up on waiting for someone we’ve met who kind of meets our expectations so that we don’t let go and meet someone who could meet our expectations more. You’re so right about looking beyond the physical to find those like qualities we share. It’s hard to let go!
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  4. Nick says:

    Maybe you’re trying too hard to find someone and looking in the wrong places?
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    • Ana says:

      Thanks Nick. I’m already taken but I have friends who feel like this and some of them have given up looking and are just getting on with their lives instead. Perhaps that will do the trick but I like the idea of giving fate a helping hand ๐Ÿ™‚
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  5. lisa prince says:

    theres someone out there for everyone i totally agree with that saying, i spent half my life with the man i thought was the one and was soo unhpppy thinking he was the one i would spend the rest of my life with , eventually i realised he wasnt after years of heartache and moved on , i eventually married my best friend from my teen years , we lost contact centuries a go but bumped into each other and stil say fate got us together

    • Ana says:

      Thanks for sharing your story Lisa. I’m convinced there’s not just one but a whole bunch of people who are right for us and that we only have to recognize them and be ready for them when they come along. I’m pleased you found your best friend again ๐Ÿ™‚
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