After a few bad dates in a row, or a few weeks with no one on the horizon at all, you might start to feel that eligible single guys just don’t exist. You know plenty of great men, but they’re all married to or in a relationship with your friends. You decide that all the good men are taken and there’s none left for you. You might as well resign yourself to a life alone or going from one jerk to the next.
But there’s no need to head out to the pet store for cats just yet. While you might be feeling discouraged at the moment, you can rest assured that not all the good men are taken, you just haven’t met your man yet.
The key word there is yet.
One major reason why women feel the good men are all gone is because they put themselves under pressure to find that perfect man, and find him now! Take a deep breath. let go a bit and look at the big picture. Sure, there are a lot of men that aren’t right for you, but that doesn’t mean there isn’t at least one that is just who you need. Remember, you have to find that one man in a huge crowd of men, so don’t expect that you’ll be drawn to each other like magnets. Give yourself time and stop stressing about it.
If you’re under the impression that all the good men are unavailable, it could also be because you’ve set some pretty high standards. Could it be that in looking for a good man, you’ve started to look for Mr. Perfect? While keeping your standards high enough that you don’t settle for anyone, don’t set the bar so high that no one can meet your expectations. After all, you’re not perfect either. The key is finding those with flaws you can live with, not finding a guy without flaws.
Remember, looks aren’t everything. If you don’t give a guy a chance because he doesn’t have a movie-star face and body, you could be missing out on the love of your life. Take time to get to know a man before you write him off. Sure, you don’t want to hang out with a man who’s obviously not taking care of himself, or who you find a complete turn-off, but at the same time, it’s amazing how a guy can grow on you once you give a great personality a chance to shine. Sometimes a change in perspective can work wonders in finding a great man. He was there all along, you just didn’t see it.
Take a good, hard look at yourself. Are you the kind of person you’re looking for? Are you kind, considerate, and fun to be with? Do you do everything you need to stay fit and healthy? It’s kind of hard to expect that good men will come knocking on your door if you tend to be negative, unkind, miserable, or bitchy. Try to become the person you’re looking for and you’re more likely to attract someone who’s a great match. Be Irresistible!
Maybe you’re also looking in all the wrong places. Could it be that you go to the same old places to meet guys? If you tried other options you could attract a different type of man. Going to bars or pubs looking for men might not be your best option. They’re often just looking for something short term, like one-night! Think about where your ideal man might hang out and then broaden your horizons, and get out there to find him.
Need some inspiration for places and activities where you will meet the best guys? Take a look at my book on Amazon 182 Best Places To Meet Men. Get The Guy You Want. Remember, the more eligible single guys you meet, the quicker you’ll come across the one, so make sure you get out there. He’ll not be calling round any time soon unless you have a hankering for the pizza delivery guy.
Over to you? Does it seem to you like the good guys are thin on the ground? Are there any other reasons for this than those here? Please share your thoughts in the comments below.