You meet thousands of people and none of them really touch you, and then you meet one person and your life is changed forever. (Jamie Randall from the movie, Love and Other Drugs)
It’s funny that about love. If you’re at the stage of meeting (dating) tons of people and thinking that you’ll never find anyone you want to go on a second date with, never mind someone you want to spend the rest of your life with, you won’t believe that “the one” is out there.
But he is.
In fact, more than one.
I believe without a shadow of a doubt, that there is no one person perfect for another. Instead, there are lots of guys, who are just about perfect for you, and will make you happy. Hundreds of them, if not thousands.
So, it’s not that you have to find the one needle in a haystack that is right for you, do or die. If you miss one Mr Right, there will be another out there coming along to be discovered some time in your life.
If you keep a look out.
You just have to be open to finding one of your Mr Rights, and not give up on the whole exercise, putting on your blinkers to every potential good guy out there.
The trouble is (sorry to say) you don’t know whether one of your heap of Mr Rights is just around the corner or you’ll have to suffer another thousand dud dates before you come across one that could be the guy for you.
Here’s an idea.
Don’t take this whole dating thing too seriously. It doesn’t just have to be about finding Mr Right.
See dates not as a search for that one guy that will make your life complete (that life completing idea is a fairy story in itself, but I digress) – see them as a way to enjoy the company of your fellow human beings. Have the attitude that you’re going to have fun on a date whether or not one of your Mr Rights will be taking part.
If you are getting bored with coffee and dinner dates, why not take some of the responsibility for suggesting places to go and you might enjoy yourself more. Have fun with the 108 first date ideas on this site and make sure you enjoy yourself.
That way, you’ll probably come across a Mr Right when you are least expecting him and, like the quote, your life will be changed forever too.
If you already have a Mr Right where did you find him? Do you think there’s only one Mr Right for everyone or more?
That last line summed it up for me and was something my aunt told me years ago. She said ‘stop looking and he’ll him find you!’. As soon as I stopped thinking about finding my prince, he definitely appeared. Just gotta enjoy life and be open!
Thanks for sharing, Lis. I think it’s probably something to do with how much more attractive everyone is when we are having fun as opposed to how we come across when we are desperately seeking something (especially something that we are starting to think we’ll never find).