Not all relationships are created equal. If you look around at your friends you probably have a good idea about who is in a good relationship and who isn’t – although it’s not always easy for an outsider to tell.
What about your own relationship? Do you consider it good? Would your friends agree with you?
Sometimes we end up in a relationship that’s not ideal. Sadly, many women settle for one that is not good for them, simply because they don’t want to be alone or they are afraid to start looking elsewhere. But if you’re stuck in a relationship, even a bad one, you leave little room for anyone else to find you.
Maybe you haven’t even thought about whether your relationship is good or not and are just “going with the flow” even though you’re not sure. It’s scary to think that you might just drift into the future like that.
But there are some pretty basic and obvious signs that you’re in a good relationship, whether you just got together or you’ve been married forever. You should be able to relate to most, if not all of these if you have a good chance of your relationship continuing to work over the long term.
If there are any you’re not sure of, ask yourself if the relationship is heading in a good direction or if there’s a real problem that needs to be addressed.
You Feel Happy
While this may seem obvious, it’s something too many people don’t take the time to think about. Of course, you might not be happy all the time. Things happen in life that can get us down or throw us for a loop, but if you look inside of yourself, you’ll feel joy. You’re happy even when you’re struggling a bit, and you’re especially happy with the relationship and where it’s going.
You Enjoy Spending Time Together
Even if you’re not doing anything special together, you enjoy each other’s company and like to be together. You converse easily about every-day things and like to talk together. As much as possible, you want to be together and look forward to the times you share together. And there’s also a balance so that when either of you wants to spend time alone or with friends, you can express that without either of you feeling unwanted.
You Like Each Other
This goes beyond the feelings of love or attraction. You like him, funny little traits and all. You admire his character. You continue to like being around him and like the way he does things. You like how he makes you feel, what he says, how he helps you, and you like his company. And you can tell he likes you in the same way.
There’s Trust And Security
Trust is vital to a good relationship. You don’t have the urge to check his phone or email, and he doesn’t question you. You know you can trust him and he trusts you fully. You don’t need to have discussions which revolve around each others trust. You know he won’t lie to you and he trusts the same of you.
Both of you should feel secure in the relationship. You know that he loves you and is no longer looking for another woman. While some jealousy can’t be helped sometimes, you should feel secure enough not to be possessive and suspicious. If you feel secure in the relationship, you don’t question if it’s going to last, you know he’ll be there for you when you need him, and he can count on you for the same.
You Can Be Honest and Open
You know you can be honest and open with each other and that neither of you will overreact or get upset. You have to be able to talk about your ideas, hopes and dreams and reveal parts of yourself that you don’t show to just anyone. You should get to the point where he knows more about you than anyone else, even those parts of you that you’re not happy about.
You Respect Each Other
You talk kindly and respectfully to each other. You don’t make cutting remarks or jokes that cause insecurity. You respect each others opinions and ideas, even when you don’t agree with them. You don’t put each other down, especially not in public. You support rather than undermine each other.
You Both Show Appreciation
You appreciate all he does for you and all that he is and you feel equally valued in the relationship. And you don’t just feel these things but also express them. Neither of you takes the other for granted and you make sure that they know that.
Over to You: How does your relationship measure up? Doing well so far? Please share in the comments below.
Look out for the second part of this article tomorrow when there will be another seven signs of being in a good relationship. Now up! Find it here: 7 (More) Ways To Know If Your Relationship Is Healthy