I feel very lucky to be married to my husband – he’s the right guy for me. He’s kind and loving. He makes me feel safe and happy. He makes me laugh. He’s good company. I hope you feel the same way about your guy. What makes some of us lucky in love and others not so much?
Is it actually luck that makes a happy marriage?
I think luck is part of the story, given that, when it comes to love, few of us are thinking with clear heads.
Until the age of 22, boyfriends came into my life and boyfriends went out of it with varying degrees of upset. At times I thought my heart was broken, but looking back, none of those guys were right for me. I didn’t think that at the time, so perhaps it was lucky that they went! If you feel broken hearted just now, bear that in mind…
At 22, I met my husband on a college course I’d decided to do on a whim.
We were both single, and it was pretty much love (or at least lust) at first sight for me.
We have been together ever since, and have now been married 25 years.
Why has it worked?
Who knows – a bit of chemistry and effort but also…
Good Role Models
Both sets of parents were a good example of a loving relationship that worked. None of our siblings have divorced. And all seem to be happy too. That’s six couples who are all together over 20 years (50 in the case of our parents). Maybe it’s a record these days.
We are both easy going and tolerant. We have our rows about minor things but they are pretty mild and don’t last long. It’s not that nothing irritates us (see The Most Irritating Thing About My Husband) but we have learned to let it go and not worry about it.
We have friends and interests of our own. We like each other’s company and we also like our own space. Just like this marriage quote – close but not too close.
The love/attraction/lust (whatever you like to call it) is still there, though we are no spring chickens now, and I’m sure neither of us would fit into our wedding clothes at this point. We are not fanatical, but we eat fairly healthy food most of the time and exercise now and again too, so we haven’t let ourselves go too much! I’d still pick my husband out across a crowded room and say “Wow”!
This is my entry for day 1 of the blog every day in May challenge. There is a suggested topic every day and I’m going to try and tie my entries into the subject of this blog. Today’s topic was the story of your life, so I thought I’d write about my marriage which has spanned a lot of my life.
NOW IT’S OVER TO YOU: Do you feel lucky with your guy? Is it luck or is it something else that makes your relationship work? PLEASE SHARE IN THE COMMENTS BELOW