At some point during a first date, usually towards the end, there is usually an opportunity or possibility for a first kiss.
Although you can plenty of opinions around about what you should do on your first date, there’s no right or wrong answer when it comes to first date kissing, but there are pros and cons to it.
If you’d like to meet him again, the first date kiss will let him know that you like him. You’re giving him permission to get to know you better. You’re also seeing if he senses any chemistry between you. If you want more contact with him, and you see him moving in for a kiss, it’s a good sign that you’ll be meeting up again.
The Promise Of More To Come
By kissing you’re showing that you’re interested in getting more intimate with him at some point in the future if things work out. It lets him know that you’re not seeing him just as a friend, as someone to pass the time with or as a person whose company you enjoyed. If he wants to sleep with you (which he is probably hoping will happen as some point in the near future), a kiss can show that you are happy to get closer to him, even if you don’t want to get too close, too fast.
If it turns out that first kiss really doesn’t have much to it, you’re saving yourself a second or even third date before you find out that there isn’t really much chemistry. Maybe you enjoy his company, find him easy to talk to, and have a lot in common, but if the kiss doesn’t do anything for you, you may decide you don’t want to keep seeing him romantically.
You May Not Know Him Well Enough
When you’ve just met someone, it may be too early to tell whether you like him romantically or not. In many cases, guys can grow on you if you give yourself a chance to get to know them. Expecting chemistry too soon can kill any prospect of that. Not kissing him but being ready to meet again gives you both the promise of more potential further down the road.
Sending The Wrong Signals
There are those dates where the guy is looking for a one-night-stand and you are not. If you kiss him or allow yourself to be kissed on that first (and probably only) date, you could be sending a signal that you’re ready to go further. You have to see where the date is heading, what the man is like, and what he seems he expects from you first. If all he wants is a one-night stand, you’re probably better off not kissing him and giving him the impression you’re on the same path, unless that’s what you want too. If he really is interested in you, he’ll be alright with the arrangement and content to meet again and get to know you better.
Getting His Hopes Up
If you’re not sure you want to meet again, or don’t feel any chemistry, kissing him could get his hopes up that you’d be happy to meet again. Don’t lead him on by kissing him and then giving him the opportunity to get hurt or upset because you really don’t want to start anything else with him. Don’t give in out of pity or because you feel you need to kiss him because he paid for dinner. Let him know you had a nice time, but be clear on your feelings about further meetings.
Note from Ana: Seeing as I kissed my future husband on the dance floor before we even had a date, and then again as he made sure I got safely home, you can see which side of the debate I come down on. And it’s the side of doing whatever you feel like at the time 🙂
It’s up to you what you’re comfortable with and only you know how the date is going. Only you know what the chemistry is between you, and you are the only one who can decide whether to kiss or not to kiss (or in most cases, how to respond if he kisses you).
Over to you: Do you have an opinion on kissing on the first date? How soon did you kiss your current/latest partner? Please share in the comments below