How comfortable are you with a public display of affection (so-called PDA) by a loved up couple? Part of me thinks I should be reacting with “that’s nice”, and the other half most definitely wants them to get a room.
Perhaps writing about relationships and love, I should be more comfortable with public displays, but to my mind, when you are all over each other like that, it’s generally not love going on.
In most cases, you’re in that mad period of infatuation at the start of a relationship, when you can’t keep your hands off each other.
There’s lust in the air rather than love, and that is uncomfortable for the rest of us to witness.
Lust and infatuation will either turn into lasting love, or it won’t. At that point, public displays of affection are generally reduced to holding hands and the odd kiss. And the passion (hopefully) has found a room – plenty of room – where you can be all over each other in private for the rest of your lives.
Meanwhile, in those early stages, in common with new lovers everywhere, there’s a selfish disregard for the world at large. You only see each other, and not the passers by wincing as they go by.
If I’m having a good day, it’s not so bad. I’m likely to smile on the happy couple and silently wish them well. Luckily for me, most of my days are good.
But what does it do to the lonely, the widowed and those who are going through a bad break up? It definitely doesn’t make their world a better place.
New lovers, please have a heart and tone down the public displays of affection.
Thinking about it, there’s another kind of public display between couples that makes me wince, and that’s between those couples who have been together a while – perhaps, many years.
In this case, an overly lovey-dovey display where they are all over each other, and using terms of endearment in every sentence, makes me question the strength of their relationship.
It’s as if they are putting on a public performance to prop up shaky ground – just like when couples appear in magazines like “Hello” and talk about their wonderful lives, two months before announcing an acrimonious divorce.
Couples who are getting on and sure of each other don’t need to have their relationship validated by anyone else.
Are you comfortable with public displays of affection? Have you been so much “in love” you didn’t care what anyone else thought? (I’m sure I have been guilty of this.) Do you know couples who argue in private, and then put on a performance in public? PLEASE SHARE YOUR THOUGHTS BELOW