In case you missed it, we looked at the first step to a great relationship (whether you are already in a relationship or not) last week. You can catch up with that here.
This week it’s the turn of the second step, and again this applies whether you think you have found the love of your life already or you have yet to set eyes on him.
There is a general idea out there that love just happens. I blame fairy stories, romantic novels and movies for that kind of myth being lodged our heads. We seem to think we will bump into Mr Right one day and that will be that.
Of course, popular culture also teaches us there will always be a few things that go wrong (not much of a movie or story otherwise and the path of true love never running smooth and all that), but, in the end, what is meant to be, will be, or so we think. It’s destiny!
I’m sorry if you’d like to believe all those lovely stories running around about love in the movies, mostly starring my other husbands, but true love is not just going to happen without you lifting a finger, unless you are the exception to the rule.
True love happens when you get out there and make the effort to meet lots of possible loves, maybe even hundreds of them.
And once you find the “one” that you are happy with, the “happily ever after” ending only happens if you then make the effort to keep things sweet in all the years you have together.
Effort is everything, not fate, not destiny.
The woman who has the best social life has the best chance of finding a romantic relationship. The woman who makes sure that her relationship stays fresh and interesting has the happy ever after, not the one who can’t be bothered because she has already caught her man.
So could you be making more of an effort?
Probably! We all could (including me)!
Nothing worthwhile was ever achieved without a bit of effort. And relationships are no exception.
Over to you: Where could you be making more of an effort to meet the love of your life or to look after the relationship you have? Please share in the comments below.