Speed dating varies a bit, but the general concept is that singles show up at an organized event where there are equal numbers of men and women (usually limited to a particular age group).
You are given a few minutes with each potential match before moving on to the next until you have had a chance to chat to everyone (or as many people as there is time for).
If you are interested in someone during the limited time you have with them, you mark it down on the sheet provided. At the end of the event the organizers provide contact numbers only to those who have noted interest in each other, and you can plan a “real” date.
While there are pros and cons to speed dating, many recommend it. Even if you aren’t successful, at least you’re out there meeting people instead of sitting alone at home, and you never know who you will meet at each event.
If you compare it to online dating, it cuts out all the endless messaging and emailing. You have the opportunity to see and talk to your perspective date, even if it’s just for a short time, and you won’t have the dreaded first date with someone who is nothing like their profile.
Often you will know instantly if there is any connection at all, and you have the opportunity to walk away when your time is up without hurting anyone’s feelings. With speed dating, you’re more likely to hook up with someone you feel at least some chemistry with.
On the downside, it might take a couple of attempts at speed dating to get to where you’re not nervous about the process and can enjoy it and make the most of it. You have a very short time in which to try to not only get to know someone in a basic way, but also make a good impression. You might dismiss perfectly good guys or be dismissed yourself, when if you had a bit longer you might hit it off.
Here is a video by slowdating.com (speed dating specialists) showing how a speed dating initial conversation might go along with 25 fun tips to help you make the best impression
If you don’t have time to watch the fun 2 minute video, here are the important speed dating tips in a nutshell
- Dress smart casual
- Look cheerful and friendly
- Don’t talk too much about yourself before showing interest in them
- Don’t treat it like an interview with a whole list of prepared questions
- Don’t check out who else is there during the short time you have
- Try not to look bored even if the other person goes on and on
- Avoid profanity
- Be as relaxed as possible
- Keep to light-hearted subjects
- Don’t lie
- Don’t go on and on about yourself
- Don’t make notes on your potential date during your time with them
- Don’t get drunk
- If you like the person, use open body language and smile
- Let him know you’re interested with a brief touch on the hand, playing with hair etc
- Make a note on the card if you’d like to see him again after he moves on and before meeting the next person
Over to you: Have you ever tried speed dating? What do you think of the idea? Please share in the comments below