There has long been a myth that men are put off by smart, successful, intelligent women. Perhaps some men are intimidated, but most men who are smart, intelligent and successful themselves want a partner who is on their level and don’t even mind if she is more successful than they are.
But the fact remains that more successful smart women than you might expect stay single, and it’s not because they are too busy or “there are no good men out there”. If that is what they say, they are probably just making excuses.
What does happen is that many women who spend their days being dynamic and living in the world of work competing and interacting with men find it hard to switch over into a more feminine style of interacting in a social context.
Many successful women never show guys they have a softer, more receptive side that he is looking for in a life partner. After all, he doesn’t want to be in a relationship with an ambitious co-worker. He wants to be in a relationship with a woman.
If this applies to you, you no doubt have a softer more vulnerable side which you have learned to keep well hidden because the more feminine traits, such as caring, nurturing and receiving, don’t get so well received in the hard still masculine-dominated world of work.
In the video below, Dating Coach DeAnna Lorraine explains
- how men need to feel needed and that they are contributing something to the relationship and making a difference in a woman’s life
- that there needs to be enough difference (“sexual polarity”) between the two of you for him to feel attraction
- that when you’re an independent woman who can do everything for herself, you’re giving off lots of signals with your body language and with the things you say that you’re resistant to anything he has to offer.
- that these signals can be as simple as insisting on splitting the tab and opening doors for yourself but they demonstrate that you don’t see any place for him in your life.
Note from Ana: I’d hate to think we would have to go back to a time when a woman had to pretend to be less intelligent or less successful than a guy, to make herself seem more attractive.
From the ages of 11 to 18, I went to a girls’ day school that was founded on the basis of allowing girls to excel in an all-female environment so they weren’t tempted to hold back in the presence of the males of the species!
Some women still do that to this day, but it’s really not necessary. You can always find ways to make him feel like superman without dumbing yourself down! And there are also four ways to show him your more feminine side in this article.
Over to you: Does this idea of women demonstrating their more feminine side on dates make sense to you? Have you had any experience of this? Please share in the comments below.