Top 11 Biggest Complaints Women Have About Online Dating

Although a huge percentage of people find their partner on an Internet dating site, online dating is not all wine and roses.

If you are considering joining a dating site, you should be aware of the complaints women typically have about online dating so that you are not unduly put off as soon as you start.

You may be lucky and not have any of these problems, but chances are high that you will not be one of the lucky ones. Just persevere and don’t let these things put you off, and you are more likely to have success in your dating venture. Good guys are on there. You just have to unearth them!

Here are the biggest complaints women have.

Men Don’t Look Like Their Picture

While looks aren’t the most important part of starting a relationship, meeting someone who is nothing like his profile picture can be very disappointing. The clearer the picture the less likely it is to be a fake but some guys post pictures taken some time ago when they were much fitter and had hair. Don’t ever fall in love with a picture or profile. Wait until you meet the guy in person.

Being Matched With The Wrong Person

While this happens less on paid sites, there are times when people get matched with someone who doesn’t fit their profile. Age, religion, smokers, etc often get mixed up, so doing a quick check before responding can help. It may also occur because some men don’t fill out the form completely or truthfully, so expect that there could be some matches that don’t fit your profile. This can seem like a waste of time and it is certainly frustrating. On the other hand, when you meet someone in a “regular” dating environment, you’re going to have to find all that out as well. It’s just when you join a dating site, you expect to have the matches made for you.

No Messages

Waiting for messages can be discouraging. If you have no contacts for more than a few days, think about whether that your profile needs some work. Do you have a good picture of yourself up? Are your expectations realistic about the type of men you want to meet? You can also write and contact men on the site which can help you get dates. You don’t have to wait.

Too Many Messages

The opposite is also true. You might feel swamped with emails, often from the same person. Some men can really come across as desperate, letting you know over and over how much they’d like to talk to you, get to know you, etc. Sometimes one man won’t let up, even if you’re clearly not interested. Also, when you’re new on a site, you might get a lot of “empty” emails, which are just flirtations or obvious messages that are written to everyone with a copy/paste, and it’s so obvious. Try to find a way to filter those messages and when you see a lot of messages from one man, just ignore or block them.

Taking Liberties

Men sometimes take liberties they wouldn’t take in real life. Calling you pet names in the first email, sending lurid pictures of themselves, talking about how sexy you look, or other comments that make you feel uncomfortable are quite common. Remember, you have no obligation to respond. Simply block or even report him if messages are vulgar or creepy. Don’t get mad if a man asks for sex when you’ve let him know you don’t think you’re a good match. Just write him off and cut all contact.

Not Taking Rejection Well

There are the plain rude men who don’t like being told no. If you decide not to continue communication or let him know he’s not a good match, you might get horrible responses. Some of the comments made include calling women vulgar names, saying the woman looks ugly and will never get a date, “didn’t want to date you anyway”, etc. Don’t take these personally. Those men are insecure and can’t handle that not every woman is falling at their feet. You need to develop a tough skin and just brush these kinds of comments off. Report the person if he’s vulgar or mean-spirited as a favor to other women.

Overused Phrases

Many men will say what they think women want to hear without really taking the time to find out what it is women really want, and you’ll hear the same old, tired phrases over and over again, which can come across as him not being bothered to make the effort to get to know you. You’ll have to see for yourself if he’s just not all that great at expressing himself, or if he really doesn’t have a clue when it comes to women. That’s if you haven’t fallen asleep as soon as you opened his message.

Players

Just as in the real world, not everyone online is looking for a meaningful relationship. Some guys have figured out how to make a woman feel wonderful, but they are looking for nothing more than sex. It’s not always easy to spot these men, but, as in real-world dating, you’ll have to learn to roll with the punches and realize that life goes on; the right one is out there for you.

Unavailable Men

You may find someone you’re interested in and then it turns out he’s still married or in a relationship. He might have excuses that he’s planning on breaking up, or he may have kept his profile up despite seeing someone. He may be just out “fishing” to see if there’s something better out there. Look for the signs early on to check his availability. See this article for some clues.

Lack Of Romance

Many women enjoy the wooing process. They like when a man offers to buy her a drink, asks for her number, and buys her flowers on the first date. Online dating can feel like applying for a job sometimes. While most men can still be charming on a first date, some of them are still in interview mode with a lot of questions and little in the way of romance or flirting. Accept it for what it is, because if you start to get on, the romance comes later!

Too Much Pressure

Because you met on a dating site you both might feel some pressure to make the date work and create a relationship after a very short amount of time. It’s as if you can’t slowly get to know each other as you might in a real-life situation.

Try to take the pressure off a bit and have fun with it. Line up several dates so that you have more options. Don’t hang all your hopes on one man and make sure he hasn’t hung all his hopes on you, either. See if you can meet more informally the first time, maybe for coffee or lunch. This relaxed date idea also works well in weeding out men who are looking for a one-night-stand, and those who haven’t been honest in their profile.

Over to you: What (if anything) do you dislike about online dating? Have you had friends complain to you about it? Please share in the comments below