If you love your husband, never let him doubt it and don’t take for granted that he knows you love him just because you married him.
Be careful about falling prey to peer pressure from those who don’t believe in women being good wives in the traditional sense.
If you love your husband, there is no shame in you going the extra mile to make him happy by cooking meals he likes or dressing sexy for him, or giving him a massage from time to time.
In a balanced relationship, he’ll know how to show you that he loves you as well, but it’s not about keeping score.
Regular smooches show him you love him in an intimate way that other people can’t. Kiss him when you first wake up and just before going to sleep. Kiss him as he’s leaving for work and when he gets back. Plant a kiss on him when you find yourself waiting in traffic, or spontaneously as you pass in the hall. While the short, endearing kisses also tell him you love him, make sure not to neglect those long, deep kisses. You’re really telling him you love him, that you desire him, that he’s sexy to you. Be the one to lean in for a kiss and then not let him go.
Most men are very physical and take physical contact as a sign of love. Cuddle next to him on the couch when you’re watching a movie, hold hands while you walk down the street, and rub his shoulders as you pass him at the dinner table. Whenever you can touch him, touch. It’s a way to say, “I like you and want to be near you. I love you all the time and want to show you.”
Don’t stop flirting just because you’re married. Flirt with him in public whenever appropriate. It’s your way of letting others know that he’s special to you and he’ll notice that. And flirt with him at home too. Flirt everywhere. (More tips: Flirting With Your Husband)
Whisper “I Love You” Frequently
This works especially well if it’s at an unexpected time. Lean over when you’re in traffic or while you’re at an event together. Whisper it while he’s on the phone, at dinner with his parents, or during the parent/teacher conference. Anywhere.
When he’s always the one asking for sex, it can start to feel like you’re not really into him. Put yourself in the mood earlier in the day and be the one to jump him at the next opportunity. A man loves the thought of his wife being turned on for him and it’s a sure way to show him how much you love him. Wear something sexy to bed or turn up for your evening movie on the couch just in your bathrobe—nothing underneath and let him find out how little you’re wearing. (More tips: How To Initiate Sex With Your Man)
Ask About His Fantasies…
…and if it’s something you don’t mind, make them happen. He’ll love you to bits. If he wants to be blindfolded and fed strawberries and cream in bed, do it. If his fantasy is to make love to you on the kitchen counter, why not? Many fantasies are easy to implement and he’ll know you care enough to not only pay attention but go out of your way to make it a reality.
Surprise Date Night
While it’s important to plan dates in order to ensure they happen once you get married and even more so after you have kids, a surprise date is a welcome gesture. Herd off the kids to grandma or for a sleepover and meet your husband at the door or at work looking your sexy best and be the one to take him somewhere special. Or, if you can’t get a sitter, once the kids are down, set out wine, candles, and his favorite meal. Little surprises like this show him that you care enough to put in the effort.
Breakfast In Bed
On a day when he’s sure to sleep in, creep out of bed and prepare his favorite breakfast to have ready when he wakes up. Make sure to bring it to him in bed and, even better, join him. This can turn into a fun morning date as well…
Give him a gentle massage or neck rub if he’s had a particularly long or stressful day. Pay attention to his complaints of aches and pains and see if you can’t rub that pain away. Key areas to massage are the feet, hands, legs, shoulders, neck, head, and back. You don’t have to be a professional masseuse in order to relax him. If you feel you need to learn, there are tutorials and books where you can pick up the basic strokes.
If you’re home when he walks in the door, make it a point to greet him. Stop what you’re doing for a moment and come to meet him. Kiss him if you can and make that moment when you meet up again at the end of the day special. If you know when to expect him back, you can be ready by not doing something that is difficult to stop just then.
Pay Attention To His Needs
Men are not always the best at expressing exactly what they need, but women can learn to pay attention to his body language and other signals. You can probably tell what kind of day he’s had by the expression on his face. It’s easy to see if his back or neck is sore and could use a massage. You should also know what works to make him feel better. If he’s had a long day and would appreciate a bath, draw one for him and let him know it’s waiting for him. If he’d rather chill over a glass of wine or beer, pour one for him. By paying attention to his needs, you’re telling him how important he is to you as well as showing him how much you love him.
Give Him Space
A wife who insists that her husband always be around will end up making her man unhappy. Men need times to be with other men, doing things just with other men. Let him take regular fishing trips, have his weekly poker game, or go camping with his buddies when he needs to. Whatever his man-hobby is, give him room. There might be a hobby he does on his own as well, just to have his time to think and sort things in his mind. If you can do this without nagging or feeling hurt because he’s not spending all his time with you, he’ll know you love him enough to give him some space from time to time.
Buy Him Something He Wants
If you can save up to buy him something he’s been coveting for some time, go for it! Even if it’s not something he necessarily needs, but rather a new “toy” or gadget for his hobby, it’ll tell him you love him. Buy it for him “just because” if you can, not only at anniversaries or birthdays, though that’s a good start. Little additions to collections he has, supplies for one of his hobbies, or that one thing he’s been talking about getting for some time are great ways you can show him you love him.
Send Him Messages
Modern technology makes it even easier to show your husband you love him. Take time each day to send him a text, email message, or other instant message to let him know you’re thinking of him. These can be romantic, flirty, or sexy. Send a picture or quote you’ve seen that reminds you of him or something you think he would find funny or be interested in. These little messages can perk up his day and remind him how much you think about him when you’re not together.
Wear What He Likes
If he has a particular outfit or perfume that he really likes on you, wear it at times when you’d really like him to know that you love him. Some women wear a certain perfume or lipstick that signals to their man how much they want him and is almost always a way to initiate love-making later on. But even if you don’t do it with that intention in mind, wearing something he likes shows him you value his opinion. If there is a certain piece of jewelry he gave you as a gift or a dress that he finds you irresistible in, wear it for special occasions or at a time when he needs a bit of a boost.
Work On Staying Attractive
This doesn’t mean you have to kill yourself working out or deck yourself out in makeup every single day. What it means is not letting yourself go. When you take the time to groom, to stay fit, to look nice for him, you’re telling him that he’s worth the effort. Of course, if you’ve had a rough night with the baby or just got soaked in the rain, you won’t look wonderful. He doesn’t expect that you’ll always look perfect and he’ll understand. But at the same time, making the effort needed to look nice for him as much as you can will make him feel you care about him finding you attractive.
Cook His Favorite Meal
The old adage that the way to a man’s heart is through his stomach is still largely true. A man feels loved when he gets a meal prepared just for him. If you don’t know how to cook his favorite food, or it’s something that you can’t easily get the ingredients for, consider ordering it in from time to time in order to enjoy his favorite meal with him in the comfort of your own home.
Tell Your Kids You Love Him
You should tell your children regularly how much you love their father. If he’s in ear-shot, great, but even if he’s not around, say it anyway. Not doubt they’ll “spill the beans” at some point. Making sure your children are aware that you love their father will strengthen your marriage and your family too.
Tell Him WHY You Love Him
Just telling him how much you love him is very important. But it’s good to give reasons sometimes. You don’t have to come out with a list. Just saying, “you know, this is why I love you so much.” when he does something you like and appreciate works too. When you’re sending him a text or email use the opportunity to let him know why you love him. Today would be a good time 🙂
Be Willing To Apologize
Everyone makes mistakes in a relationship and while it might hurt your pride a bit to admit it, it’s really a sign of love if you can say sorry when you’ve been in the wrong. Even when you’re both at fault, sometimes be the one to take the step to mend things after a fight or disagreement.
A man knows if he’s being supported in his endeavors or if he’s silently being torn down. As much as you possibly can, support him in the things he sets out to do. Even if he’s not the best handyman, let him know you are standing by him as he tries to fix the kitchen sink. If he needs to make changes in order for his job to progress, work towards finding a solution together. Make the effort not to think only of your own needs, but of his as well.
Ask For His Opinion
One sure way to show him you love him is to ask for his advice and then to consider it and take it when you can. Find out how he feels about big issues before you act. Also know what he thinks of current events, upcoming elections, or other things that concern you both. Letting him explain to you what he thinks tells him that you value his opinion. Even if you think you already know what he’ll say, ask anyway, you might just be surprised.
Over to you: Is there anything special that you do for your husband to show him that you love him? Guys, what would you like your wife (or future wife) to do for you? Please share in the comments below.
Brilliant list of what we can do for our husbands. I think I need reminder that we need to constantly work in our marriages.
Irene Soh recently posted…DBS Marina Regatta 2014 (Post Event)
Thanks Irene. And I hope it feels more like fun than work 🙂
Ana recently posted…Relationship Success – Depth Not Duration
My husband and I will be married 40 years this month – the touches and not taking him for granted are major things right now. One thing I chuckled about was sending him texts and emails. My spouse doesn’t use his cell phone except in emergencies and doesn’t know how to text. If I sent him an email it would be years before he read it. I show my love by taking some of the burden of electronic life off his shoulders – in turn he does some tasks that I totally hate.
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That’s quite funny about your husband’s cell phone. I often switch mine off because we go to the movies or something and then I find it a few days later still switched off in my handbag. But my husband is quite attached to his so I send the occasional message to him. Thanks for sharing, Alana.
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I love these Ana! I do a lot of these already for my husband but some of these gave me some good ideas! Thanks for sharing.
Misty Spears recently posted…How to Make Homemade Hemp Milk
Thanks Misty. I could do with doing some of them more often too!
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These are really wonderful ideas! Some of them I do all the time, but there are others I never stopped to consider. I WILL have to do them now, otherwise I won’t feel like I’m being a good wife. 🙂
Bonnie Gean recently posted…What I Learned from My First WSO Product Launch
Thanks Bonnie. I’m sure you’re already a great wife but it does no harm to make him see you’re an even better one than he thought 🙂
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Great list. I’m not married, but if I were this would be a great way to enhance the marriage.
Edie Dykeman recently posted…7 Classic Ways to Increase Your Child’s Dexterity
Thanks for your comment Edie.
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So many ways to show him love! It’s actually a good reminder to read this because sometimes we get busy or overly settled in our ways and we forget.
Salma recently posted…Finding Support as a Parent
Thanks Salma. There are probably lots more ways that I haven’t thought of but they are a good start I think 🙂
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