I was watching a TV show this morning at the gym called “Dinner Date” where a woman was meeting a guy who had been single for 6 years. The first question that sprang to her mind was “Why? What’s wrong with you?”
If you’ve been single for longer than you’d like, perhaps you’re asking yourself the same question.
But the truth is, there’s nothing wrong with you.
Of course, we can all make improvements. We are not perfect by any stretch of the imagination. But if you’re thinking that you are fundamentally flawed and unlovable, it’s just not true.
There may be many reasons why you haven’t got together with the right person yet, but none of them are because you are not good enough for the eligible guys out there.
If you’re thinking things like “If only I wasn’t so fat, I would meet someone” or “I wish I was better looking” or “I can’t flirt and joke with guys like other women. No one is going to find me attractive” then there IS something wrong with you, but it’s not the problem you think it is. It’s just an issue with the level of self-confidence you have.
You don’t love yourself enough.
If you don’t think you’re worthy of a partner, then it’s difficult for anyone else to fight with your opinion, and decide that actually, you ARE worth it, despite the negative vibes you give off about yourself.
Women of all types find love – very few of them are size zero super models with bright bubbling personalities. Not all of them are under 30 or even under 50. They didn’t think they were too fat, too ugly, too old or too boring. They just got on with meeting and chatting to guys and enjoying their company, and then love just happened.
And you can do the same provided you work on feeling good about yourself until you know there’s nothing wrong with you – because that’s the truth, there isn’t. You’re good enough just as you are.
And if confidence is not your issue, don’t worry, there’s still nothing wrong with you! Over the coming weeks, look out for more articles that will help you root out the reasons you’re single. You can squash every reason stone dead until nothing stands in your way.
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Over to you: Are you single and don’t want to be, or do you have a friend you can’t believe is still single? What do you think is getting in the way? Please share in the comments below.
Thanks for sharing these tips! While I am married, I know my single friends would like to read this.
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Thanks for your comment Krystal.
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Alas I am now married 😀 or else your tips would have found space in my life 😀
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Thanks Richa. I guess, we were all single once and remember how that felt. I was happy most of the time, but did want to find someone.
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